Jill, I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate you posting the story, When Queens Ride By. I have been in school part time, and that has been very stressful. That very morning I received a letter that my unemployment benefits have run out. My first thought was to worry, but something told me to get on-line and read my favorite blogs and I came across this story. It really helped to put my mind at ease. I could go back to work, but my husband works some overtime and the evening, we never know when, and I think it is important that when he does make it home he has a hot meal, and clean clothes for the next day.
Our teenage sometimes relies on me to get him to his evening part time job and karate classes. He also needs a hot meal, clean clothes for school. Unless it gets to the point that I have to go back, I am staying home to take care of them. I’ve learned so much reading your website, and I try more than anything to follow what God wants me to do. Keep up all the good work!
Jill writes: Rachael, thank you for taking the time to e mail me with those kind words. Isn’t it amazing God’s timing on things at times? I am glad you liked the “Queens” story. I read it for the first time years ago and it really changed my life and the way I look at things concerning my home. It helped me to put so much into perspective with my home, family and work.
When I feel my wheels turning in top gear I will pull out that story and it has a way of helping me slow down and get things in order. You sound like you have your hands full with school, a teenager and a husband so I think you know what I mean.
Here’s one thing that happened to me years ago that revealed the truth in this story. My kids had to ride the school bus and they would arrive home hot and tired. The minute they stepped off of the bus they were fighting and fussing. I was at my wits end with them.
Then one day I was watching the dust from the school bus and I knew I had about 5 minutes before they would arrive home fighting and fussing again. To help brace myself before the onslaught, I stopped to get a cold glass of lemonade. Then it dawned on me (or more likely God answered my prayer)– my kids were hungry and tired, too, and maybe they would like some lemonade.
I hurried around and set out a tall glass of icy lemonade with a small plate of cookies. I set a plate and napkin for each of them and had it ready when they walked in the door.
The looks on their faces were amazing. They ran to the table and I sat down with them as they ate. They told me all about their day and then trotted off to play.
Just that little break with the lemonade and cookies had helped them rest and being able to talk with me helped them get rid of the stresses of the day. After that, there was no more fighting when the kids arrived home each day. Most of the time when kids are fussy and fighting they are usually tired and hungry.
A few weeks later, I realized that I was not going to be home when they arrived from school. My son said, “That’s OK, Mom, but don’t forget to have our snack on the table.” –so much for missing mom. HA! HA!
Up to that point I had not fully realized just how important those things were and what a difference they made in my family’s life and their emotions.
Sorry to be so long winded but, as you can see, the subject is something close to my heart. You sound like you really are on target with good common sense and balance in your life.
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