Think About Your Words Before You Speak



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Think Before You Speak

T – Is it true?

H – Is it helpful?

I – Is it inspiring?

N – Is it necessary?

K – Is it kind?

Each day, I am more amazed at the unkind and hurtful words people say (text, email) to each other. I have seen moms, dads and spouses say words to each other or their children and watched the person wilt and shut down right before my eyes. Some words we all know about like, “You are stupid,” “I hate you,” “What were you thinking?” and of course there are all the really nasty ones I don’t even want to write.

But what about those other words? You know, the negative ones where we just need to comment and give our opinion to show someone how wrong they are and how right we are. Oh, we try to sandwich it in between things like “that’s just my opinion”  but the tone of the message and the way it is said literally says it all.

Or what about the words like, “Ohhhh you mean you didn’t breastfeed your children? I breast feed all of mine.” or ” Wellll, I only feed my children good healthy food!” Now that I think about it, I wonder why women over the years love to jab at each other and pridefully boast about how they are feeding their families better.

That is Pride with a capital P. So often, we say the hurtful things we do because we see ourselves as so much better than someone else or because we feel small and will say hurtful things to tear someone else down to our level, thinking it will make us look better.

Be careful with your words. Memorize the above chart and start pausing and thinking before you speak. Ask yourself is what I am about to say going to build the person up or tear them down. Check not only your words but your attitude.

Read the Book of Proverbs in the Bible. Underline all the verses mentioning words. I don’t know if the Bible has more verses about how foolish people are with their words or how foolish they are with their money but there are a lot of both.

Proverbs 12:6 “The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them.”

Proverbs 12:18 “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

      -Jill



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Comments

  1. says

    just sent it to my son. he says he is going to make a post of it for his blog in the next day or so.
    I am thinking of doing the same thing since it is worth repeating for all ages to hear it.
    thanks for the reminder.

  2. Maria says

    What a wonderful post. Thank you so much.

    We so often feel unhappy with ourselves that picking faults in others seems to make us feel better. In reality, we end up regretting our own hurtful words after unnecessarily wounding somebody else.

    I’m going to see how I can implement this in my life to try to become a better person.

  3. Kim says

    thank you for sharing this. very VALUABLE and much needed to be taught. I recieved a lesson from this as well, sometimes I forget to T>H>I>N>K> before I speak!!

  4. Patricia says

    This is very inspiring. A kind inspiring word can mean so much and a grateful heart to receive these blessings can make such a difference. Thank you!

  5. barb~ says

    So wise and so wonderful. Thank you sharing. We all miss the mark from time to time, even when we’re doing a pretty good job. Always room to do better!

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