Buy your own gifts!
I have a new way of gift giving for Mike and I this year. I’m going to buy my own gifts! Nope, I’m not kidding!
Every year poor Mike is always rushing around on the day before the occasion to get something. If it’s Mother’s Day, my birthday, our Anniversary or Christmas it’s always the same.
He has always gotten me things that I love. Yes, I do ask for a cordless drill instead of a diamond necklace but he’s never failed to get me just what I wanted.
Well, the last two holidays have just about put the poor guy over the edge. He took the 3 older kids with him to the mall to shop for me. They are old enough now that they want to get me something too. I thought for sure he was going to have a nervous breakdown the minute he walked in the door at home.
Now, you have to realize that my kids didn’t even go to the mall until they were 5, 9 and 10 and then they’ve only been there about 4 times since then. (They’re now 7, 11 and 13.)
It was like sending dad with all the kids to the North Pole! They had to go into every shop and of course wanted something from each one. I think they did finally get me a gift after Mike finally said, "We have 15 minutes to find mom and gift and if we don’t, we are leaving."
So from now on, I’m buying my own gifts. This sounds crazy but I’m always seeing something that I would like at a yard sale, the thrift store or just on sale. By the time I get home and tell Mike about it and then he tries to go get it, it’s usually gone and we’ve wasted gas and another hour or two.
I have decided I’m just going to pick it up, and put in a box and then he can just pick out a couple of things to get me for each occasion! I thought that was pretty brilliant of me!
We’ve done this on a smaller level for years. If I see something at the thrift store and I’m with Mom I’ll say, "If you need a gift for me, this would be great," and she usually says, "OK," and buys it. Sometimes she says, "I bought myself a Christmas present today," and I saym "OK, how much did I spend?" Of course, having CFS, I forget that I even told her about my gift so I’m always surprised by the perfect gift! hehehe
It’s funny because now my daughter is getting in on it. The other day we were at the thrift store and she saw a stuffed animal she just "loved and had to have." I said, "No buying anything– It’s almost Christmas!" She said, "OK, so will you buy it for me?" LOL– They learn early. The stuffed animal is now hidden until Christmas!
photo by: voxtheory