Not to long ago I wrote an article about fear and the spirit of fear. Shortly after I wrote it I had a very interesting conversation with an older woman. I have known this woman for a long time and even though she has always considered herself a strong Christian, fear and worry have been her middle name.
What made me stop and think was a story she told me. Some how we got to talking about parking garages and she told me how her granddaughter had worked at a place where she had to park in a parking garage everyday. The woman went on to say that she each day she worried herself sick that something was going to happen to her granddaughter in that parking garage.
Many months even years later this granddaughter is fine and nothing ever happened to her. This woman has worried about many things like this all of her life and not one of them have ever come to pass. Do you know how much time and energy she has wasted and spent on something that never even existed in her life and the chances are that they never will?
I wonder how many of us use up our time on worrying about things that will never happen? Think in your own life, what have you worried about in the past week, month or year that never came to pass or that if it did happen it worked out fine, you lived through it or it didn’t turn out as bad as you thought?How many things do we buy or see advertised that are suppose to help take care of something we are worried about?
Maybe when in Philippians 4:8 it talks about thinking on things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable and anything that is excellent or praiseworthy, one of the things it is really meaning is to think on these things because it will help you get rid of worrying thoughts and fearful thoughts. If you read the verses above it ( vs 6) it says be anxious about nothing and then follows with what you are to think on. Worrying thoughts are not on the list.
God gives us many commandments. All of which are for our own good. So often we become self righteous and proud of ourselves because we wouldn’t dream of committing adultery, murder or steal but how often do we fall into Satan’s trap and break what we Christians sometimes think of as the “little or not so important” commandments like do not be anxious, fear not, don’t gossip etc?
Like the “main” commandments He gives us these others for our own good and protection in the same way we give should give rules to our children for their own good and protection. Worries and fears can not only destroy our lives but our family’s lives just as murder, adultery and stealing can. If you think about it worrying and fear is a form of stealing, adultery and murder; it steals from our mind good, loving and practical thoughts, it commits adultery by causing us to always think on our worries instead of God and our family, it murders because if you worry enough it will kill your physical body, your emotional life and your spiritual life.
You have all heard the story of the man looking down the road and there were 10 “worries” headed toward him. He didn’t know what to do he was so afraid but in the end only one arrived.
Don’t allow Satan to win this battle by keeping you wrapped up in your worries. You and I both know worrying has never ever fixed one thing whether it is your finances, your marriage or your kids. Get rid of your worries and fears so you can use the common sense that God has given you to deal with the one problem (like in the story), when and if it comes because chances are it won’t even happen.
I hope you all have a “worry” free day.
Jill







Jill,
Wonderful post! I can understand that right now many people are worrying about what the future holds. So many have extended theirselves finacially. I can see that there are many people worried about their nice have everything I want life style.
If you tell some one they have to wait for something they look at you like you must be crazy.
My husband and I are debt-free except our house and believe me we are working on that every month.
We have decided not to buy anything except actual needs ( I did not say wants) We are going to ride this thing through quietly but we have no fear because we know that God is incontrol of all things.
He knows when we need a drought and when we need rain. I believe it might be time for a drought when it comes to money. We are a very spoiled nation….
I have already wrote too much but I hope you understand:)
Blessings,
A Friend
THANK YOU! Today has been one of those worry days for me. My husband says I worry over nothing all the time. I have to try hard everyday to give them over to the Lord. Some people have addictions like soda or smoking, mine is worring.
Jll,if you help no one today but me you did a great job to remind me to had it over to God. Sometimes it is just so hard to not worry (the human nature in me).
I am going right now and give this worry to the Lord in prayer.
Thanks for all that the both of you do. You have been a blessing to me.
Jennifer, I am so glad it helped you today. I do hope I don’t come across as saying to stop worrying is a simple and easy thing because you hit the nail on the head when you said it can almost become like an addition.
You are also very right and wise in saying the only way to overcome it is to take it to the Lord and drop it at His feet.
Sometimes we need to do that more than once but there is light at the end of the tunnel because the more we make ourselves automatically pray about our worry the more it becomes a habit and what happens is before you realize it when something comes along to upset us you find yourself just praying about it instead of worrying because you have formed a new and better habit.
I don’t know what your situation is but I do pray that it will all work out for the best for you.
Jill
Thanks for this reminder!
One I need soooo often!
I need to remember that once I am as prepared as I can be, then to quit the worrying about it as it is a waste of my energy.
Sometimes I just ask myself, what is the worst that can possibly happen? Then sometimes, once I picture that, it is not as bad as all the worry I was putting into it.
Let go - Let God!
Jill
I love your post! I used to worry a lot ,but now I just say what is it going to matter a hundred years from now! I will not even be here!
I had to let you know about the deal I found today at our local Big Lot store . Seems they had a lot of items from a Ekered { I may not have spelled it right} but any way those drug store items were 75% off! I got some great buys ! a box of enevlopes for 15cents! A pack of two bubble wrap mailers for 10 Cents{great for mailing pictures or other items} Lip gloss by cover girl for 25 cents! cans of ice defroster for your car for those winter mornings for 50 cents! I also found beautiful place mats that match my kitchen for 65 cents for 6 place mats and I got a matching tablecloth for $1.00 Just thought I would let everyone know to check their local big lots! Praise the lord!
Jill,
What wonderful timing! I’ve been rather anxious about some things recently (such as an upcoming move and related financial things). Sunday afternoon after church I sat down with my Bible and a commentary, and read and pondered the portion in Matthew and Luke, where Christ tells us not to worry about food and clothes, and if we seek the Kingdom first, all these things will be given us.
I was blessed by a trip to a friend’s getting cancelled (would have cost $200 just for gas) - my friend knew I was saving for the move and said I could come later in the year!
Such a relief!
Thank you for the reminder.
It is very hard not to worry but I do like the idea of changing the habit from worrying to praying. I do pray a lot but sometimes worry takes over and I can’t climb out from under. My husband was just laid off and the worry and stress is all-consuming.
One of the greatest blessings I have received after renewing my relationship with Jesus Christ is the peace I received and delivery from a “worry addiction” that tormented me most of my adult life. I was constantly sick, had insomnia and my mind would just not shut down and rest from worrying. It is awesome to truly know that God is in control in all circumstances.
If everything is going really well for you, enjoy it. It will not last, because everything passes by.
If everything is just terrible, don’t let it destroy you. It will not last, because everything passes by.
Each morning leave your worries outside the gate, because that is where they pick up the trash.
My grand mother was like that. She would worry herself sick about things. I went ‘away’ to college, from Austin Texas to Huntsville Texas..she would send me ‘letter after letter’ with rape stories she clipped out of the Houston (where she lived) paper. She was worried that because I was going to Sam Houston State University that some convict would break out of prison and rape me. To my knowledge she was never a victim of rape. It always seemed to be on her mind. She was mugged once, I was 22 at the time, the man knocked her down and kicked her and broke her arm because she did not let go of her purse. He was never caught. She had a huge fear of it happening again. She locked herself in her house and I swear she never came out alone again. If my grandfather or another male family member could not be there with her she did not leave the house. What an awful way to live. Roxie
Thank you, Jill. I am thankfully not a worrier, but when I occasionally have a big issue come up, I remind myself that worrying in basically not trusting God.
My mother is a constant ‘worrier’ and I decided long ago that I did not want to be caught up in the cycle of non-productive concern. It doesn’t mean that I am not concerned or caring, but rather, when confronted with a situation that could consume my mind with worry-I give it over to the Lord and pray that His will be done. I will then find a productive way to deal with the stress, cleaning, cooking, or calling on someone who needs my encouragement. Prayer is an amazing avenue of comfort. Cynthia
This is a great post! I used to worry about things that I had no control over. Then, I learned I can “give my cares to Jesus” in prayer. I no longer carry my burdens alone. After all, a burden shared is a burden halved. Sharing your cares in prayer frees up your mind for more productive thoughts.
Blessings to all!
Jill,
I have always been a bit of a worrier. However, I have continued to set my mind on the Lord, and to remind myself daily that my life is in His hands. A few weeks ago, the worst thing that could happen to a woman happened to me — I lost a child. People could not believe how calm and collected I was. It was terrible, that’s for sure, but as you mentioned, we live through things. God has a way of giving us grace in the most desparate circumstances that we otherwise would not have experienced. In our weakness, His strength is made perfect.
My suggestion to people is to get as close as you can to God (really, He lives inside us by His Holy Spirit, but I think “closer” is something we all can understand). That way, when the worst comes, we actually can feel His presence. God Bless. Love your columns and articles. Kellie Alexander, Missouri.
Oh, Kellie, I don’t even have words to tell how sorry I am. You are right there is no greater loss that a woman can experience than losing a child. Your sweet, sweet testimony says more than any words I could say at this moment. Just remember that if a time comes and the hurt is so bad that you feel you can’t even pray for a moment there will be others of us out here who will be praying for you so for a moment you can just rest in God’s comfort and love.
I am sorry. Love, Jill
There is a quote from Jan Karon’s book, Patches of Godlight, that goes something like this: “I’ve had many troubles in my life, most of which never happened.” Thank you for taking the time to keep on encouraging all of us.