Bed Wetting Help!
My almost 9 yr. old still wets the bed. He will go 6 months and not do anything and then start again and go every night. It's usually the worst after school starts (he's worn out) and when the seasons change or he gets sick.
He is a VERY deep sleeper.
We have even been getting him up in the night and he still wets it.
I am at my wits end! I am so sick from my strep and now I have a cold that I just want to collapse.
Now I have 4 days worth of bed wetting from two kids! Augh! In the last 30 days I have had at least 2 wet beds at least 25 days! I am going insane! (My 3 yr old won't stay dry at night either yet.)
What can you do beside getting them up. I had heard of a med and an alarm do they work?
I hate to do the alarm because we don't get much sleep around here as it is and the way our house is set it up it will wake up all five of us.
Help!!!!! Any ideas?
Tawra
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He is a VERY deep sleeper.
We have even been getting him up in the night and he still wets it.
I am at my wits end! I am so sick from my strep and now I have a cold that I just want to collapse.
Now I have 4 days worth of bed wetting from two kids! Augh! In the last 30 days I have had at least 2 wet beds at least 25 days! I am going insane! (My 3 yr old won't stay dry at night either yet.)
What can you do beside getting them up. I had heard of a med and an alarm do they work?
I hate to do the alarm because we don't get much sleep around here as it is and the way our house is set it up it will wake up all five of us.
Help!!!!! Any ideas?
Tawra
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posted by Tawra Jean at 11:56 AM
18 Comments:
Tawra,
I have a 6 year old son that still has problems with night time dryness. I spoke with his doctor at his 6 year check up last year...he is small for his age, and he is a really deep sleeper. The doctor wasn't concerned--said that we could do the meds when it became an issue for slumber parties and such, but otherwise it would just work itself out with growing time.
I know you aren't one to spend money--but we use sleep pants for him--you can get them at the Dollar General for about $7 a pkg--they are a life saver when you arent' in the laundry mode. they are white and look like real underwear--obviously if you touch them they are more like a "pull-up" but they have saved us on trips and such as well.
My daughter is 2-1/2 and it doesn't look like she'll be dry through the night anytime soon. I am currently using nighttime diapers and plan to keep doing so unless her doctor tells me I should worry about it. With a coupon, nighttime diapers are reasonably affordable (using one per night cannot be any more costly than doing a load of laundry every day).
My daughter is not a particularly deep sleeper, but she does snore loudly. I recently read on one of the news websites that doctors think there may be a link between to the two (large adnoids/more urine production). Consequently, one possible solution they are exploring for chronic bedwetters is adnoid removal. You should be able to find the article with a Google search. Then, depending on what you think about it and how it might apply to your situation, you can discuss it with your doctor.
My sister has used the alarm effectively for 2 of her 5 kids, the others she didn't need it. Yes, you might get all woken up for a few nights, but hopefully it will be worth it in the long run. For the 3 year old, I would just buy diapers for them. It will save you a lot of stress and hassle and time.
This is Roxie,...Tawra if you have talked to his doctor and there is nothing 'wrong' with him then I think the night time diaper things are the way to go for now. Your rest and health are far more important than a few dollars. I am really sorry you are sick. If I was close by I would come by and do a load or two of laundry for you and bring you some chicken soup...hope things work out soon.
Is it possible there is a food allergy/intolerance that contributes? Sometimes a "crabby bladder" can be traced to these things. I'm not a big one for blaming everything on allergies but perhaps try pulling the common allergens from his diet for a few days and see what happens. My daughter would quite often throw up if she had butter flavor microwave popcorn in the evenings. Regular was fine.
Otherwise, something I did to ensure dry beds at naps back before Pull up type things were common - I would take training pants, one size too big, and a folded cloth diaper stratigically placed inside the pants, with waterproof pants over all. Obviously you will need to use the old fashioned type waterproof layer, not the fancy diaper covers. If I was really worried, I would put an old towel on TOP of the bedsheet. We used vinyl backed mattress pads for a long time. They are not expensive and save the mattress.
Christy
Tawra,
Having been there (five children)and had various situations, I agreed with all five comments posted so far. This is basically to let you know, this isn't that uncommon, stress brought about one of my sons bedwetting at third grade. went to dr, ran suagr tests (normal), cut back on liquids, etc. Did the RX for about 3 wks, and changed the stress factor. Tried not to make a big deal about it. Problem, gone. BUT sickness and stress, and seasonally allergies have hit other children at a one time shot. His concern over the whole situation, may be causing a "round robin" effect.
Take care. (the little one will be okay too)
I agree with the others above. One diaper a night doesn't cost too much. Especially for the sanity ;).
I have a silly question - did you or your husband have night time wetting issues? I did and three out of four of my kids had problems as well. I too agree with All the above comments. What might help the bed is the bed pads they use for adults. My MIL gave me ones she used for FIL after he passed away. it was great for tucking into sleeping bags when you need a little more protection when you are away. Try and be relaxed about it as the kids are so so embarrassed and that too can contribute so can a bladder infection. It got so I had my kids get up strip the bed and change. Clean up, and then take a bath. I did not even need to know about it. I would have them throw the clothes and sheets into the wash. That way they could take ownership of the issue and I always reminded them that "Mom did too" and they were human and humans are never perfect.
Reva
I have a 12 1/2 yr. old daughter who has never grown out of her problem. We've been told that puberty will help but I'm not holding my breath. She wears Depends and many nights even using the SUPER EXTRA ABSORBANT doesn't help. I find myself washing her comfortor 3-4x/week. To minimize the stress factor she has a vinyl mattress cover (she wipes it down with baby wipes) one sheet and her comforter. Less stuff to wash this way. Also, I toss in a good cup or 2 of white vinegar when we wash her load to eliminate the awful odor of urine. Believe me, if she had any control over this she would stop it herself. She is a very heavy sleeper and just does not get that signal to wake up and go to the bathroom that the rest of us do.
A word of caution - have your doctor check him over and make sure there's not an infection or congential defect causing his problem.
I agree with most - my son is 8 and still having a bed wetting issue. It's not every night, but like you said can come in waves. I have dealt with the "no clean sheets" issue and it can be such a headache. My brother (now 26) and my dad both had bed wetting issues well into their tween years. We discussed this w/Dr. at 8yr check-up and he said nothing medical at this point. Ck'd for bladder infection - all ok. Said biggest thing right now is an social/emotional issue for my son. He's right - for sleepovers we (read me) talk w/the host mom and fill her in on the situation. Turns out he's never had an "accident" at a sleepover - I think he's so nervous that he just doesn't sleep very well. Anyway, our evening routine is : dinner at 6pm and this is the LAST drink (less than 8oz) he will have before bed at 8-8:30pm. Potty time before bed and then potty again at 10-11pm when we go to bed. We wake him up and walk him to the toilet - praying his aim is good :o) I have recently begun having him remove his wet sheets and underwear and put them in the wash and make his own bed w/clean sheets. I'm not trying to punish him for something he cannot control; however, he has nights when he sneaks drinks - things like this ARE his fault and within his control...so...
Best of luck. I know it is a pain in the butt. Dr. swears it most common in boys and, more often than not, they will outgrow it.
My son wet the bed until he was 10 years old. He had a problem with being constipated too and the doctor said the two problems could be related. We started giving him fiber supplements and he did stop wetting the bed. I think there were several factors causing the bed wetting, but clearing up his constipation seemed to help. My son is 12 now and has not wet the bed at all in the last 2 years.
My oldest daughter(age 11) had the same problem and didn't outgrow it until around 10. We bought depends diapers for her. To me, even though I'm a frugal person, its worth the cost of not having to get up and change the bedding during the night. There were still accidents sometimes though that leaked here and there, but it saved me a lot of sleep! She is a very deep sleeper also and didn't even realize she was wetting the bed. Now it looks like my 7 year old is following in her footsteps. Don't worry, it'll pass with time. In the meantime get some night diapers :)
I have a six year old who use to wet the bed, she still does on occasionally but we do not let her drink anything after 8pm. Its worked so far for us.
I have 3 boys, now all adults, who all had bed-wetting problems. Neither I or my husband ever had a problem with it. All of the other suggestions are good, but the most important thing is patience and also showing your child acceptance & love. Hang in there; it's really a hard situation but it will eventually leave! My oldest son was 13 before he was dry all the time. He also has a lot of food allergies so possibly there is a connection to allergies. I did not use diapers but did use plasic across the bed with a absorbant cover over it to minimize washings.
WOW why didnt your DH wash the sheets? That is really nasty to let them sit that long.
He was doing all he could to keep me and the 3 year taken care of plus work and try and just keep food and dishes done.
He would have if it would have been possible but it was just a horrible 5 days!
I can't complain about my hubby helping out, that's for sure. He will vacuum and do the dishes almost everyday! He is not afraid of keeping up the house when I can't do it. This was just a bad time.
Tawra
I have twins age 7 that wet their beds and I use re-uable pullups and pants from RP Diaper Designs. These are a very good product and have no problems with leaks. Living out at the edge of the prarie I don't always get to a store and so I've found a reusable product to be the answer.
The doctor has found no problems with either of them.
my son is 6, and he wets the bed, he really tries not to. recently it wakes him up after he does it, he used to sleep through the night wet.
we went to the ent today and when he asked me if he wet the bed, i was wondering what tha thad to do with his ears, lol. he said that his adnoids are slightly oversized and could be creating something that causes bedwetting, i find that very interesting. and we are going to entertain the thought of admoid removal, for more than one reason.
have any ofyou ever heard of this?
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